• Think: is there anything that could be gained from the argument at this point? If the answer is no, it’s time to stop talking, no matter how angry you are.
• Don’t repeat yourself. Making your point once is much more powerful than repeating it over and over again. This applies in work situations too. Think of yourself like a lawyer presenting a brief. Say what you think, then keep your mouth shut. “Anything further that you say at this point is going to screw up your best chance at a good outcome,” .
• Don’t respond to retorts that are designed to make you angry. Ignore them. If your partner or father or friend baits you by saying something like: “You’re just like your mother” or “You always say that!” recognize it for what it is and tune it out.
• When you hand out advice, don’t require the other person to recognize as the most brilliant suggestion ever. Just say it and move on.
• When in a argument, always ”Think Before You Speak”.